Friday, November 09, 2012

Levity - Too Much Gravity Just Holds Me Down


Its serious business out there. Life. Turn on the news or read a newspaper, were inundated with the terrible. Im sure some of that is simply because the sensational brings the attention of the viewer and more viewers brings advertising dollars. Still, everything about life can seem to be grave, harsh, and cold.

In one verse of his song, Come On Up To The House, Tom Waits sang it like this:

Does life seem nasty, brutish and short
Come on up to the house
The seas are stormy
And you can't find no port
Come on up to the house
There's nothin in the world

Pretty stark, isnt it! We are here for the long haul, a struggle of lifelong certainty. But heres the real truth of the matter. We have some wonderful tools in our bag of tricks that help us to deal with life, bring it back to a more enjoyable and far more bearable plane.

It is true that a certain level of levity can make everything feel a lot better. We have room for the absurd. We make time for amusement. We take a break for the frivolous. I am grateful for the benefits of levity to make our lives just a little more bearable.

I believe there is little in this world better than that contagious giggle just outside the limits of control. Laughter can make any moment better, improve our outlook and buoy up even the worst of moods. Still, there may be some other benefits that are longer lasting.

Heres a little something a little levity might be able to do to benefit our physical health:
       Lower blood pressure
       Increase vascular blood flow and oxygenation of the blood
       Give a workout to the diaphragm and abdominal, respiratory, facial, leg, and back muscles
       Reduce certain stress hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline
       Increase the response of tumor- and disease-killing cells such as Gamma-interferon and T-cells
       Defend against respiratory infections–even reducing the frequency of colds–by immunoglobulon in saliva.
       Increase memory and learning; in a study at Johns Hopkins University Medical School, humor during instruction led to increased test scores
       Improve alertness, creativity, and memory

Even with these benefits, the most important aspect of levity is the mood in which it places me. I am grateful that we have an outlet that helps make everything be all right, a way to bring to my heart a lightness that would otherwise be stuck in a dull, darkness. Jocularity is something we can share with our loved ones that costs so very little yet brings us together and strengthens our relationships. Laughter establishes--or restores--a positive emotional climate and a sense of connection between two people, who literally take pleasure in the company of each other. Of course levity can defuse anger and anxiety, and in so doing it can pave the path to intimacy.

No, folly cannot and will not make the heavier, direr aspects of life go away. Still, when we can engage life with a sense of mirth, the stage is set to tackle our problems together and not feel so alone. 

Thursday, November 08, 2012

Patience - more than just consideration


There is nothing as incredible to me as patience. No, not that patience Ive exhibited for others. Many that know me would readily admit that Im not the most patient person in the world. I find the patience others offer every day to be an almost inconceivable gift.

The experience we all have in life is quite demanding and sometimes unforgiving. It is vastly enriched when we are allowed to take it at our own pace. It is quite uncommon to find people who do not allow for others to make it happen at a pace made necessary by personal circumstances. How incredible is that! I am grateful that most people are kind enough to have patience at such times.

Certainly, it is the most dedicated teacher who works with the young people today who has the some of the greatest patience of any. They are there to help children learn how to read, write, add and subtract. No, this patience is not limited to just the start of a childs learning career. All through elementary, middle and secondary schools, one of the finest tools in a teachers bag of tricks is indeed patience. It is through this patience that many thrive, learning not only the basics required to get through their lives but also by example what it takes to be there for others who might need their help. Most teachers are extreme examples of the power of patience, what can be achieved when someone or something is given enough time, attention, or encouragement is exercised reveals only the limit of humankind. I am profoundly grateful for teachers who have been willing to spend the time and personal resources, reaching into the depth of their very being to have the patience to guide me in my life and do the same for my children.

Any parent knows, their patience gets tested time and time again. I am grateful for the strength of their patience. How better to show love than to express patience when a child is trying to learn something new, or relearn something theyve been trying to master. Time is the greatest blessing a parent can give their child. Certainly, in such efforts the grandest ingredient is patience fueled by love. I am grateful for the patience my parents showed toward me throughout my life. Truly, I am sure Ive tested their patience more often than I could even know.

Older Brothers, younger brothers and sisters too, are incredible examples of the power of patience. We have all experienced those times when we've done nothing but test the nerves of those that should be closest to us. The joy that swells when siblings take the time to help each other is wonderful. The friendship and love brothers share is beyond compare. It is all built on a foundation of patience, this is sure. I am grateful for the patience my brothers and sisters have had for me and the choices I've made in life. I am grateful for my daughters and the patience they have for each other, too. The close relationships siblings have is a blessing of great value.

I am grateful for the patience strangers show in every day life. Mistakes are human; the divine attribute of patience helps us overcome these mistakes. It also helps us all to learn from our own mistakes. The struggles in life would be far worse if strangers didn't also have patience. I am grateful to all who've shown such powerful patience with my foibles even though they might not even know who I am.

Wednesday, November 07, 2012

Curiosity


With all its various implications, curiosity is certainly something for which we should all be thankful. If man didn't have a certain need to pry into the unknown, we'd still be eating raw meat, subsisting on whatever we could hunt and gather just to survive. Beset by inquisitiveness, the human race has fled a harsher world and made it better for future generations. Our interest in what could be drives us to make the impossible possible. Man hasn't sprouted wings like a bird, yet we fly higher and faster than any avian ever dreamed. Curiosity has created a world where medicine cures or eliminates health problems, food tantalizes, communication across vast distances is possible, travel and knowledge are more readily available to more people than ever before in the history of the world.
 
I am grateful for the curiosity that has driven others to make the world a brighter, greater place for the rest of us.

Tuesday, November 06, 2012

Responsibility v. Community

Well, I'm a little late to the gratitude party this year. Yes, I would have liked to start my daily foray into expressing my gratitude on the first. But this year I have been preoccupied with another issue all-together. That issue will culminate today in the presidential election. I don't have confidence that I will feel better tomorrow morning when everything should settle down and some kind of result should be known. I might just be worried about things I should let slide. I might be concerned where no concern is warranted.

On the other hand, I might have grounds for my concern and this might be one election that truly will have lasting ramifications. The two main choices are men of vastly different philosophies. They both stand at the helm, leading groups of people who believe the role of our government to be incredibly different from the other's understanding. Is the government supposed to be an incredible safety net or is it strictly there as a basic framework of support? Is it right to force people into service or can we expect people to do for others as they ought to be doing? Is it worth sacrificing a few personal freedoms and responsibilities to embrace a larger government with greater power to help those in need?

I'm at a loss to answer these questions fully. I believe people should be working toward the better good for all men at all times. I believe we serve each other and the benefit from that service is enough reason to stand up and do what is the right thing for everyone. Personal growth springs from helping others achieve greater accomplishments. I also believe that when we force people to care, there isn't really any caring at all.

So, today, as we go to the polls to cast our vote to guide America toward a better tomorrow, will we choose the best path? Will we give up just a little more freedom? Will we endorse a path that does not encourage responsibility for self but seems to espouse an all-for-one attitude? Is one philosophy better than the other?

Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Politics Aside...


Anyone who knows me, knows I was against our attack of Iraq. In all actuality, I was against invading Afghanistan. In fact, I felt al Qaeda and the Taliban were powers with which we needed to deal but that they weren't tied closely enough to the governments of those nations to justify ignoring their sovereignty and the subsequent invasions. Now, I spoke out against these actions that were made by a Republican administration. Why is it when I say something about how I feel when a Democratic administration does something it is taken as political rivalry? I think when something is wrong, it doesn't matter what their party affiliation is and they should be held accountable. PERIOD.

If I were to tell some of my friends how I just cannot bring myself to vote for a candidate who is against gay marriage, or who cannot divorce his parents' belief in creation, they'll nod along in agreement. If I tell those same friends how important a woman's right to choose is, that I cannot support a politician who even leans toward some kind of regulation on this right, they'll agree with me whole heartedly. If I tell these friends that I cannot support a politician who's been caught using the worst racial slurs, that I cannot cast a vote in his favor even though I might agree with him on more policy issues than the other guy, they'll applaud how I've held strong to my ideals. For these are grand ideals, aren't they? They are grand ideals because of their assumed tolerance and the great weight they place on humanity, they are an enlightened view, educated.

Now, when I suggest I cannot support President Obama, some of these same friends respond with a vileness, a hatred beyond anything I could have imagined. You see, I thought someone with a progressive mind was supposed to be accepting and tolerant. I am asked how I cannot support a man that has done so much for the people of this nation. Well, you see, those same ideals many progressives purport to embrace are hardly put to the test. Many reject those ideals because the ends justify the means. I just do not agree.

Here are a couple reasons which I do not consider political but make it impossible for me to support a second term for President Obama.

1. We terrorize innocent people simply because they were born in a country, share a space of land with those with whom the United States does not agree. Drones patrol an area in North Waziristan. These unmanned airplanes kill in a way that isn't "precise" or "surgical" even though President Obama wants to claim that it is. Hundreds of innocent people, including chidren, have died in this act of terror inflicted by United States forces. These actions are turning the lives of these people into nothing less than a nightmare. They are always afraid. The policy creates more terrorists than is even possible to eradicate. In the best case scenario, America is causing the ruin of thousands of lives, killing hundreds of innocents for a small increase in safety. It is hardly moral in any sense of the imagination.

2. President Obama has established an incredibly reckless precedent: any president can secretly order and oversee the extrajudicial killing of American citizens. The President's kill list exceeds any transgression against the constitution done by George W. Bush, ever. It is an extremely radical invocation of executive power. That not one of my progressive friends finds this to be anything more than the president being proactive in protecting America from terrorists leaves me speachless. It is a shameful use of executive power and should be stopped.

Now, there are other problems in this world and other issues that are great to consider. I just cannot overlook these as small problems. If I am wrong, I would like to hear how we can justify these actions without ignoring my own ideals. You know those things that help me make decisions in my life.

Friday, September 21, 2012

Leadership

The author of this leadership story is unknown.

Once upon a time, there was a General who was tasked with leading his troops into battle against an army ten times the size of his. Along the way the troops stopped at a small temple and prayed for victory.

The General held up a coin to his troops and said: "I am going to ask the Gods to help us crush our enemy. If this coin lands on heads, we will win. If it lands on tails we will go down in defeat. The fate of each of us is in the hands of the Gods. Let's now kneel down and pray with all of our hearts."
After a brief prayer, the General tossed the coin in the air. It landed with heads on top. The troops were overjoyed and went into battle with great confidence and vigor. As had been predicted the smaller army won the battle. The soilders exclaimed: "It's good to have the Gods on our side! No one can change what they have determined!"

"Really?" the General said. He then showed them the coin which had heads on both sides

Wednesday, December 07, 2011

Friday, October 28, 2011

Some of the Spookier Places I'd Like to Visit

In light of the season, I was thinking about some of the more creepy places I would like to visit. Here's a list of 10 that I think few would find comforting in anyway.
Reaching up from Hell

Wat Rong Khun
Wat Rong Khun in Chang Rai, Thailand, is still under construction. A controversial modern temple, it is part traditional Buddhist temple, part white-frosted wedding cake, and part avant-garde art. Visitors must cross a bridge to the temple over a field of fangs and hundreds of pleading white arms and suffering faces of statues reaching up from hell. The temple is dominated by a stark whiteness but inside and throughout other areas of the temple compound, including the toilets, are highlighted with sparkling gold.



Chandelier in Sedlec Ossuary
In Kutná Hora, Czech Republic, the Sedlec monastery is home to a very old crypt. A popular burial site for centuries, residents were victims of plague outbreaks and Hussite Wars. In the 1870s a local woodcarver was hired to make creative use of the bones that had been piling up in the crypt. This was no minor task: the Sedlec Ossuary contains the remains of over 40,000 people, many of which were used to decorate the chapel. The effect is a macabre yet beautiful scene: elaborate light fixtures, arrays of bells, furnishings, splashy wall treatments and coats of arms are all recreated from skulls and bones of all sizes. Is that chandelier staring back at you?




Ryugyong Hotel
The Ryugyong Hotel in Pyongyang, North Korea, has been under construction since 1987. The massive and still unfinished 105-story hotel looks like a luxury hotel designed for Mordor. Esquire described the hotel as "the worst building in the history of mankind. The epithet "Hotel of Doom" is quite fitting. Construction halted due to lack of funding, and the partially completed building stood windowless and looming ominously over the city for sixteen years before work resumed in 2008. The design was strikingly modern at the outset but time has not been kind, it now looks simultaneously menacing, dated, and unconscionably extravagant juxtaposed with the impoverished populace.

Dongyue Temple
Department of Implementing 15 kinds of Death
The Dongyue Temple is Beijing's most morbid shrine. The operating Taoist shrine of Dongyue Temple is an unsettling but fascinating place to visit. Stepping through the entrance you find yourself in Taoist Hades, where tormented spirits reflect on their wrongdoings. The 'Life and Death Department" is a spiritual place to ponder your eventual demise, the "Department for Wondering Ghosts" and the "Department for Implementing 15 kinds of Violent Death" have slightly less inviting names, while the ill might seek out the "Deep-Rooted Disease Department". Other halls are less morbid, but no less interesting. The best experience can be had during the Chinese New Year or Mid-Autumn Festival.
Department for Demons and Monsters



Lemp Mansion, St. Louis, MO
I cannot say how many times I've gone by the Lemp Mansion in St. Louis without taking the time to stop. It's reputed to be one of the USA's most haunted houses. St. Louis' Lemp Mansion has a long history of odd occurrences. Charles Lemp committed suicide in the house in 1949 and strange things have taken place at the house ever since. Door swing open spontaneously, glasses leave off table and break, and a tragically short-lived reality TV Show, are just a few examples. Today, the mansion operates as a restaurant and inn that capitalizes on the morbid fame through murder mystery dinner theatre, Halloween parties and weekly tours by a noted "paranormal investigator".

Scott Monument
The Scott Monument in Edinburgh, Scotland, is a spiky Gothic fantasy with more than a passing resemblance to a Thai temple. It's the monument to Sir Walter Scott and a fixture of the Edinburgh skyline. It stands only 61 meters high so the climb to the top doesn't sound too daunting until you find yourself wedged into the preposterously tiny spiral staircase. The final curve is so notoriously tight that squeezing yourself through the final doorway requires the flexibility of a spelunker. Edinburgh mystery writer Ian Rankin once set the scene of the crime at the top of the Scott Monument, with much of the story focusing on the physics of getting a stiff cadaver down the twisty staircase. Bill Bryson has described it as looking like a "gothic rocket ship".







Catacombe Dei Cappuccini
The Catacombe dei Cappuccini in Palermo, Italy houses inhabitants all decked out in their Sunday best. Unfortunately, that Sunday was several hundred years ago, and the outfits have fared significantly better than the wearers. The mummified bodies of skeletons of some 8000 Palermitans from the 1600s through the 1800s are kept in the catacombs for all to see, some so well preserved that they look eerily lifelike. Men and women occupy separate corridors, and within the women's area there's a special virgin-only section. Spooky for adults, probably terrifying for the kiddies.


Chornobyl Reactor #4
Abandoned Ferris Wheel
Chornobyl Reactor #4 in the Ukraine is the famous site of the world's biggest nuclear disaster. The 30 KM-radius exclusion zone is has been mostly uninhabited since 1986. Still, limited tours have been available since 2002 for those curious enough to get a glimpse of the industrial ghost town but aren't put off by the ominous click of a Geiger counter. Factories, homes, schools, and a very creepy abandoned amusement park stand decaying and choked with weeds, but remain otherwise like they looked at the time of the disaster.

Ottawa Jail Hostel
The Ottawa Jail Hostel in Canada seems to be the basis for a horror movie. Where else can you spend the night in the slammer? And what better than a slammer that is haunted by the spirits of former inmates that was also deemed unsuitable for prisoners due to appalling conditions? Opened in 1862, the Carleton County Gaol was in operation for over a century, but it was hardly a hit with the prisoners who complained of cramped conditions and sanitation problems. It might not have been suitable for prisoners at the time, but if you're a traveller on a tight budget and don't mind that your room happens to be a prison cell and your bunkmate might be spectral, it's perfect. As a "prisoner" today, your punishment includes parking, wifi, and a games lounge.

White Alice
White Alice is located above Nome, Alaska, overlooking the town and the Bering Straits from the top of Anvil Mountain. A weird Cold War relic, from down in the town it looks like a bizarre space-aged Stonehenge. From a closer view, it could be a film set for a shoot of the Victorian-era War of the Worlds. The four strange corrugated-iron sound reflector structures were intended for listening to suspicious Soviet activity. A gold-rush town a century ago and the finishing line for the Iditarod dog-sled race today, Nome is the perfect example of a honky-tonk, almost-at-the-Arctic-Circle frontier town. For a real Alaskan experience visit White Alice during the Midnight sun.

Thursday, July 14, 2011

The True Legacy

There was always that nagging feeling he had failed in so many different ways. The king had feared the possibility of recognizing his strengths and successes and the complacency that might come of it. So much worry compounded by his concern that he never really measured up to his father, who was also very much beloved by the people. Both men were selfless and caring, giving everything they had to the betterment of the kingdom. Both men were endowed with an incredible desire to serve.

Some say this all-consuming worry was probably the cause of the illness that took the once vibrant and strong man and destroyed his physical frame, leaving him bed-ridden and frail. As he lay in his deathbed, moments of lucidity were nearly overwhelmed with bouts of confusion highlighted with mostly indiscernible ramblings. When these mumblings could be understood the context was difficult to decipher.

The queen spent her days attending to the needs of her king. The prince took on much of the responsibilities of the kingdom, though he too was hardly found far from his father’s bed. The illness was drawn out. Eventually, the king was overcome and passed away.

Of course, the land grieved the loss of such a man. There were many who thought to send condolences to the family. The funeral was held in the fashion of the land, many remembering the great deeds of their lost king. The king’s children each shared many of their memories. Almost all who spoke suggested this king was greatest among rulers for his care of his people. They all agreed that all were blessed for knowing him. He served his people without any concern for self, stretching all available resources beyond what most thought possible. Many commented that this great king would not have thought such a spectacle over his life necessary. Indeed, he would have preferred that energy focused toward more productive activities. His dying wishes asked that instead of flowers at his funeral, people would do an act of service instead. Failing that, a donation to humanitarian charities should suffice.

The king was buried with generations of great men and women, where anyone looking at the monuments could be reminded of their great deeds.

With the ceremonies and gathering done, the prince was still consumed with grief. His memories of his father provided comfort but such was fleeting. Although the Prince knew many who had died, he realized he had only this once grieved. The prince spent his days helping manage the affairs of the kingdom but all around him knew of his grief. He seldom laughed like he used to. His wit hardly ever brought forth the mirth people knew.

One day after the evening meal, the prince had excused himself to the upper garden seeking to be alone with his thoughts. He wished to remember some things of his father and make plans for helping some of the less fortunate. The king was a man of service and that is what made him the happiest. So, the prince was trying his best to follow in these great footprints.

Although he thought he was alone, there came a visitor who wanted to help the prince feel better. The visitor was the country’s preeminent singer. Stepping forward, the rustling of her steps drew the prince’s attention to her.

“Why are you here?” demanded the prince. He wished to be left alone and found the intrusion bordering on treason. Certainly is was not but these were his feelings anyway. The prince in his grief had lost much of the charity that made his father the great man he was.

The Singer retreated a little at such brashness but said in a strong voice, “I’ve come to sing for you. You have forgotten something about your father.”

“I’ve not forgotten my father. He is why I am who I am. No. Be gone with you.”

“Your country suffers while you waste your time here. The world crumbles though you busy yourself thinking to protect it,” the singer pleaded. “Although you think to live your life as your father did, you’ve forgotten what truly made the king, Our King.”

“If I relent and allow you to sing, will you leave me alone?”

As an answer to the prince’s question, the singer began her song. Her voice was incredibly fine, cutting to the very center of the prince’s soul.

Almost immediately the artist seemed to take on another’s countenance. This visage was that of a very young girl, though her voice continued to be the same. The girl whose clothes were worn to near rags looked hungry, her eyes held a wisdom revealing a life already heaving with turmoil and grief. Though otherwise quite clean, she had a little soot on the end of her nose and a bandaged wrist. The song seemed to tell of a youngster living a meager existence with little hope of even attending school until someone recognized her needs and helped her family.

The song changed a little, whether it was a slight decrease in tempo or a change in key the prince did not recognize. The performer’s voice still as clear as it was from the start, seemed to take on a heavier tone. The little girl was gone replaced by a young boy, a couple years her senior. The boy wore a school uniform and had a look that suggested he was from a family of some substance. He stood there looking a little self-conscious. The song continued to tell of a boy whose family played a high stakes game with their wealth. When the father lost everything he fell into a deep depression from which he never recovered, ultimately leaving the boy an orphan. The boy, having never known want, was left with nothing. He was scared. The verse continued to explain the boy was reunited with a long ago lost relative who took the boy in as his own.

Again, the song’s tone moved a little different and the boy was gone, replaced by a young woman who was wrapped in a blanket. Something terribly wrong had happened to this poor girl. Her faced was bruised and she held herself as if she were sore all over. The blanket almost covered her but the prince could see her clothes had been torn. The verse explained how the girl had been abused by someone who should have loved her. She was alone in the world and needed some support and a new beginning. This someone did that for her and she was able to get back to school and start a new chapter in her life without the baggage of her past.

As the song continued the young woman was gone, replaced by an elderly man in a chair, too feeble to stand. This was a lonesome time for a man whose lifetime of experience seemed to shine and sparkle through his gray eyes. The canto continued to explain how this man’s life seemed to drag on endlessly in complete loneliness. Telling of how someone came to him and asked a simple question. Since the answer was not so simple, his gray eyes had a twinkle of pride and usefulness that was not there before.

In the final verse, the man was replaced by a lost soul whose whole world was encompassed in a small glass pipe. The addiction destroyed everything the person had, leaving him empty as soon as the contents in the pipe were consumed. Living his life to pursue that addiction, this was an empty soul until someone found a way to unlock the trap.

As she finished her song, she resumed her original visage and turned to leave. The prince stood speechless with tears streaming down his cheeks. His father knew there were people that needed to be helped. That help took the form of many different shapes and sizes. He was freed a little from his grief and was able to focus on finding the individual rather than the cause. The king hadn’t failed at all.